Just as I had settled into a nice, easy take on WILLINGNESS (i.e., bad hair days and dancing in the rain) I came face to face with a far more weighty situation that I was NOT initially WILLING to face.
What were the telltale signs?
Hurt. Anger. Justification. Torment. Despair. Depression.
My entire arsenal of defense mechanisms kicked in…but in that space there is no resolve.
In fact, for some of life’s hardest junctures, there simply is no resolve. You can’t change the past.
But there is always a choice here in the present.
Will I choose love or fear?
And if someone hurt me (or I hurt them) – am I WILLING to forgive us both?
Life can be a running string of regrets and offenses when fear and unforgiveness win.
I choose love.
I choose forgiveness.
And when the past comes back to haunt you with your failures, take comfort in Maya Angelou’s words: When you know better you do better.
In other words:
Every hard fought lesson learned is a building block.
Yes, Brenda 2.0 fell short. But that was 15 versions ago. And I am NOT willing to hold myself hostage an obsolete version of me. And I hope you won’t, either.
Which is quite a preamble to this week’s WOW. When I recorded this, I was a bit at a loss…but now I see – all the pieces of life work together as a tapestry. If you look closely, you’ll see ugly bits of fabric and lovely ones, too. Focusing on just the one or the other causes you to miss the full picture, which is a combination of it all.
We all have failures and regrets in this life. But what did you do with them?
Did you change and grow and evolve and learn? Do you know better and then do better?
Then stop obsessing over that ugly bit of fabric. It’s just one piece of you. Yes, it may be the only thing that others see, but that is their choice.
You can choose to see through the lens of love and forgiveness. And when you do, you can see how all the little pieces have come together – and continue to come together – to make you who you are today.
What does SYNTHESIS mean to you?