When we planned their visit over a year ago, we had no idea how wise the timing would be for our friends Judy and Jim Neubauer to come to town.
It had been over a year since I had enjoyed quality time with my friend and, for the guys, well – they’re great at being goofy together. I vividly recall one New Year’s Eve when they tried their hand at hip-hop dancing as the clock struck twelve.
Thankfully, they both decided to keep their day jobs.
The levity Jim brought with him is exactly what Duane needed after traveling home from his mother’s funeral services. A true pal, he even watched Johnny Carson reruns with us.
Jim and Judy are the kind of friends whose kids call us “Aunt Brenda and Uncle Duane.” Can I tell you how much I love that?
Not having a daughter of my own, I got to go prom dress shopping several years back with Judy and her daughter Laura (who is now practically a pharmacist). Doug was Shasta’s favorite baby-sitter. He’s now a Marine. I’ve watched Amanda grow from a “Little Cindy-Lou Who” lookalike to a stunning young teenager…and Daniel? He was the only Neubauer offspring I’ve known since the womb.
An entire essay could be written about Daniel, whose twinkle and star-shine wrapped into an irrepressible personality are likely to be famous one day. (I called it, folks.)
Yep, I love those Neubauers. But getting back on topic:
DISCERNMENT was this past week’s WOW and while I have enjoyed making my new Sarasota friends, there’s nothing like a long-time friend whose counsel you trust to boost your mental health.
And in this case, it wasn’ t just my mental and spiritual health – it was physical, too. See, Judy is a Nurse Practitioner. If you’ve got a belly ache, a pang in your side, a funky looking mark or…well, you name it, she’s got just the advice to put your mind at ease.
So while the trip here was supposed to be HER birthday present, I’m the one that really got the gift.
Sometimes you just need someone you can say anything to who won’t judge but will lend a listening ear and some sage wisdom.
And who will go shopping with you.
Thank you, Judy, for being such a friend. For encouraging me to take those probiotics and for helping me with this week’s WOW!:
How freeing it was for me to discover that not everyone had to love me – or even LIKE me – for me to be at peace.
How relieved were my friends and family when I stopped trying to get them all converted to my point of view!
Trying to change anyone other than ourselves is an exercise in futility. And who made us the other guy’s savior?
Yes, when I focused more on the moat in my own eye and embraced the concept that we can all agree to disagree, HARMONY began to blossom in my life.
And my life began to blossom.
May our week be filled with good music and inner peace – regardless of what may be going on around us.
Let others’ dramatics play on. We don’t have to enter the fray.