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Keeping it Kind in the Mind (and the New WOW)

My mind can be either a landfill of thoughts or simply a breezeway for them to enter and exit.

Thoughts are like beloved company or dreaded solicitors, and we should treat them similarly.

A welcome visitor should be encouraged to stay (perhaps forever). You fluff their pillows and linger over coffee at the kitchen table. You ENGAGE and cultivate experiences that build to more of them.

With solicitors, who never fail to call just when you are sitting down to dinner or ring the doorbell at the WORST possible time (actually, any time the doorbell rings without a pre-planned visit is usually inopportune), you cut to the chase and close out the contact as quickly as possible.

I suggest we do the same with the thoughts that come to call, hoping to lodge in our minds.

Why do we entertain liars, bullies, Negative Nellies and Debbie Downers?  If we wouldn’t invite them to sleep in our guest room, why let them linger in our minds?

Perhaps because we fear they speak the truth.

I protest!

It is the TRUTH that sets us FREE; lies put us in bondage, render us losers and talk us out of our dreams.

As those of you who follow this blog know, I had my own crisis of faith in recent weeks that almost talked me in to quitting my practice of the Word of the Week.

It toyed with my soul, nagged and chipped away at my joy and was building power…

…until I gave it a voice. Speaking it out loud and sharing it with people whose opinions I respect took it out of the shadows and into the light.

When the light shines, you see the fuzz balls and the dust for what it is – and you can clean house.

Which is what I did.  And why I am here today, talking to you wonderful friends.

Let’s take the flipside for a moment:  If Jimmy Fallon showed up at your door (or George Clooney or Oprah or maybe your favorite character from This is Us or someone else delightful and/or hunky), wouldn’t you roll out the red carpet?

So when someone compliments you or you think kindly about yourself, why do we so easily dismiss or deflect?  Is it a false humility?

Does it matter what it is if it doesn’t serve our best selves?

I had some close encounters this week with wonderful people setting up housekeeping with MEAN thoughts.  Here’s what I had to say about that (and of course, the new WOW):

Ah, HARMONY.

A call to be at peace, within and without. Embracing differences so they blend rather than tear us apart.

This goes along beautifully with the exhortation to be kind, to yourself and to others.

When the nasty thoughts come, toward yourself or to another person, show them the door.

And usher in HARMONY.

xoxoxoxo
Brenda

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What a Treat! The New Word of the Week…

When you’re in a jam, INTEGRITY will preserve you.

(Did anyone else get the jam/preserve play on words?  I actually am writing this soon after having peanut butter on an English muffin, and was craving jam.  Or preserves.  But we didn’t have any.)

I talk about this aspect of integrity in this week’s wrap-up video:

So we won the WOW lottery!  It’s a week to be DELIGHTED.

Or delightful.

Even more so than usual.

As I always say:

Little treats

I’m interested to know what delight looks like to YOU?

For me, it’s hearing John Russo sing The Way You Look Tonight or Fly Me to the Moon.

It’s the show, Unbreakable Kimmy Schmidt on Netflix that I binge-watched giggling non-stop this past week. Who knew being a former cult member could be funny?

When Duane visits me in my office and rubs my shoulders…*sigh*.  Or we start singing Jimmy Fallon’s “Tight Pants” song together – yippee!

Don’t tell me you’ve never heard it?

Now the song WILL be in your head for days to come.  Duane and I like to change the words to fit the moment.  “Every body’s talkin’ bout my ______….”

You get the idea.

Unique cards that are like little works of art. Beautifully wrapped packages (it doesn’t even matter what’s in them.) The perfect cup of coffee. Payday!

Triple digit Scrabble words and episodes of Modern Family!

Life is full of potholes, speed bumps and sometimes sink holes. I believe that the little delights in life are the exclamation points and highlighters that keep our stories moving forward.

Please know that you deserve every single delightful thing that comes your way. And if one hasn’t come along in a while, it should be your priority to do something about it.

Buy YOURSELF those flowers.  Stop waiting for someone to take you to that restaurant – just go (sit at the bar and order dinner there if it helps.) Carve out an afternoon to binge-watch an entire series you haven’t caught up on.  (If it’s Grey’s Anatomy, proceed with caution.  With McDreamy gone and Japril on the rocks, it’s rough going…)

Just do it.  Whatever your IT is, treat yourself.

“Let your heart be light” is a great line in a Christmas carol, but good advice all year long.

Notice it says LET.

It’s a decision; a choice – and it’s all yours.

Have a delightful week, dear friends –

xoxoxoxo

Brenda

 

 

 

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