It was a deep, dark hole.
And I dug it. (And not in a good, 70’s “groovy” kind of way.)
Since we are the CEO’s of our own lives, we dig the holes we choose to dive into.
This week’s video talks about the particular hole I dug, so I’m not going to re-hash that, but let’s spend a minute going over how to emerge from those self-imposed ditches!
First things first, stop beating yourself up for having “done it again.” You were on a high-flying disc, you felt unstoppable, you were bathed in positivity – then BAM, you got sucker punched by a thought.
It was a nagging thought; it could have been swatted away like a mosquito, but instead, you played with it.
You entertained it.
In the workshops I teach, I use the example of a known criminal showing up at your door. Would you let them in? Further, would you brew a pot of coffee and open up the guest room?
We should treat negative thoughts; hurtful self-talk and shame-filled internal accusations with the same vehemence.
However, when we fail to kick them to the curb quickly, they do gain momentum. And their companion playmates then join in to sling some mud. Next thing you know, you have full-on anxiety, depression, the blahs and the blues.
The worst thing you can do is kick yourself when you’re down.
No! Be extra nice to yourself. Don’t dwell on the hole; think of a better-feeling thought – perhaps completely off-topic. Like that your favorite niece just got engaged – or that there’s a whole pint of Ben and Jerry’s in the freezer with your name on it. Count some blessings. You have a roof over your head, or friends that care about you. A job that pays the bills and a sunset you can catch if you look out the window.
If that doesn’t work, take a nap. Going to sleep will hit the re-set button on your mood.
Seeking those better- feeling thoughts and entertaining THEM will elevate you from the hole, and soon you’ll be back to your tuned in, tapped in, turned on self.
Yes, you are hearing my favorite Esther Hicks phrases in this post, and for good reason.
I bet you’ll laugh when you hear what nagging thought began MY personal hole since the last time we visited. How lovely to laugh at what had previously stung!
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