Sometimes life hits you with a surprise and it feels like a dream.
My friends, this is my story – and it is a very happy one.
As you know, my marriage ended in 2017 and my goal was simply for PEACE; to rediscover Brenda and reclaim her joy. I wanted to become whole, authentic and to carve out a life that made space for my dreams, gave Spirit free reign and brought healing to my heart.
In none of the above-listed equations was a man-component envisioned.
The love story I was working on was the one with MYSELF.
Who knew that this very emphasis would unlock the door to meeting someone special?
It was QUITE a surprise.
But before we get to the good part, there were plenty of entertaining detours!
For months, friends encouraged me to “get back out there”…but I didn’t want to. I just wanted to enjoy my peaceful apartment, go to Toastmasters meetings, dance at Zumba, hang at he CitySide lobby with my new friends and read good books in solitude.
I did all of that, but then I got a little bit lonely.
My friends, Larry and Brian, scolded me. “It’s 2017, Brenda! You need an online dating profile!”
Brian gently suggested that I open my mind; that I could be selective and set my boundaries. That I could swipe and delete and be in control of the experience…and that I should at least TRY.
After some resistance, I became WordGirl22 on Our Time, Zoosk, and Plenty of Fish.
A series of painfully wrong dates ensued – one with a man that demanded that I “twirl for him” so he could see my physique.
I did not twirl.
After a week of thinking there were actually only tin cans instead of good catches in the fishing pool, I disgustedly looked through the latest photo gallery of candidates hitting “No…no…no…no…”
…but then, out of nowhere, “Hmmmmmm…..”
He had dimples. I’ve always been a sucker for dimples.
Boldly, I wrote, “Nice dimples.”
And the rest is history.
The dimples were attached to a lovely man named Mark who has become my best friend and has made this holiday season both merry and bright.
I felt the need to share this with you because you have been with me for the lows, and I wanted to give equal time to the highs. Plus, some of you have seen me posing with a handsome man on Facebook and “Inquiring minds want to know!”
So now you know. My smile is higher wattage and the exercise of building a relationship is putting into practice all the internal spiritual lessons and healing I have sought this year.
What a happy surprise!
And an encouragement to all of you that, whatever pain you may have faced this year – on the other side of it is a gift that you could never have experienced any other way.
May yours show up soon! (And when it does, please tell me about it!)
In the meantime, I talk about my supportive friend Kevin in this week’s video, and have for us all a perfectly DELIGHTFUL new Word of the Week:
Kevin is just one of the friends that turned my year from traumatic to tremendous. Thanks, little brother!
Sending you all huge doses of love and DELIGHT.
May all of your dreams come true –