It’s challenging to remain PRESENT when the phone attached to me at all times pings with alerts, updates and breaking news.
My goal has been to disengage from electronics and really BE with the people in my space.
Actually, I have peacefully coexisted with this lovely woman for my almost two years at Cityside; have ridden countless elevators with her and her husband and even exchanged odd pleasantries*, yet never knew her name. (*Elvira has been known to blurt, “How do you wear a bra with that?” or other off-putting questions to literal strangers…like me.)
I never knew her name because I never asked.
Always headed to a meeting, to beat a deadline, or simply to get dinner underway, I rarely stopped to truly TALK to this woman.
But now that I am soon leaving Cityside and the Word of the Weeks, PRESENCE, has been knocking at my heart, I let our most recent chance meeting evolve into an actual conversation.
Elvira speaks like a Russian princess. Her husband, appropriately named Boris, remains at her side with a lovely little terrier-type dog at his feet. They have settled into the ease of older age and enjoy apartment living, the Saturday brunches where the entire complex gathers and even attend all of the wellness sessions hosted here.
Which included one taught by me, “Raise Your Vibe at Cityside.”
I expected the millenials and my vibe-conscious contemporaries to be present, but the first to grab seats were Elvira and Boris.
These 80-somethings came prepared to take notes, nodded throughout the presentation and asked great questions afterward. None, thankfully, about wearing a bra.
When we met in the elevator this past week, I mentioned that come Memorial Day Weekend I’d be moving out. When she learned that Mark and I had purchased a home she exclaimed in her gutteral accent, “Goot! You young people need space!”
I would love her forever for referring to us, 55 and 59, as young.
She and Boris had been quite accomplished in her home country, but coming to America, she was only able to clean houses. I don’t know what they ended up doing for their livelihoods, but it turned out great for them. They live well; their children come to visit and they go to visit them. I hear her hearty laugh and Boris’ quiet and supportive presence is always felt. Their dog adores them.
They are examples of a life lived well.
I wonder who you may pass by every day, yet never stop for a little chat.
If you allow yourself to be present, they might touch your heart, like Elvira did mine.
Now put that cell phone down for my closing thoughts on PRESENCE and the new WOW!:
Oh, darlings! What adventures will we find these next two weeks???
I will be in Santorini, Greece and will MISS – for the first time ever – issuing a new WOW on April 28th. This little hiatus will continue until I come back in May for a Mother’s Day post on Sunday, May 12th. Almost a whole month of ADVENTURING!
Have fun, everyone!